KS2 — Why was Keeping Score created in the first place, and who can most benefit from using it?
Keeping Score was born a decade ago, in an effort to create a system that allowed me to:
- fairly assess my needs (and the needs of my home and family)
- define my priorities
- create manageable domestic and professional routines
- keep myself on track.
At the time I was a young mother, with undiagnosed bipolar disorder. I could not find time to keep my house clean, let alone pursue my dreams and ambitions. I was struggling with feeling overwhelmed and put-upon. In truth, I was a martyred mess.
I believe the process of setting up and using Keeping Score healed me. In time, friends who saw a difference in my life asked me to help them set up a personalized tally. My system worked for them too.
By the time a year had passed, I was offering it to online friends and acquaintances who had become intrigued by a cryptic line of numbers (my daily score) at the ends of my blog posts. At that time – in an effort to make long-distance sharing easier – I tried to convert Keeping Score from a paper-based format to a web application. (Back in the days before apps were a thing, would you believe.) Though the system functioned, I realize now that I made it far too unwieldy for its own good.
Eventually I abandoned the complicated data entry required by the application, and reverted to using its simple paper list format. The text which I had created, to explain the process and teach others how to develop a tally, got left behind.
Recently, I noticed a new set of friends struggling with the personality and mental health issues that other self-help and organization tools gloss over. Keeping Score addresses:
- the tendency to over-do in one or two areas (common to perfectionists)
- dissatisfaction with the plodding nature of maintenance tasks and a non-understanding of how these tasks relate to the overall quality of life (common to depressives)
- ebbs and flows in energy, attitude and mood (common to those with mood disorders)
- isolation / lack of peer reinforcement (common to artists, singles and homemakers)
- difficulties with concentration, time management and commitment (common to just about everyone)
In short, I believe everyone can benefit from using Keeping Score. For some it will be an assistant during a particularly challenging phase. For others it will be a learning tool that will be modified or discarded once the useful lessons have been extracted. For a few, in one form or another, it will be a life-long companion.
TO NEXT PAGE: What’s the first step if I want to use Keeping Score?